Today
I went to drop my kids to schools, when in elevator my 3 year old daughter waved goodbye to
her grandmother and said that she will be back home soon. May be she felt that
these words would be assurance for her grandmother, who would be waiting to receive
her back from her school.
Kids
think feel process the information and react even before we think they would
and they grow up before we even realize it. This makes me often think of what
is it to parent a child? I see many people reading parenting books and creating
equations to discipline their children. I am not an ardent believer of these parenting
books and I feel every child is unique and requires a champion in their life to
mentor them. How a child behaves or in fact how all us behave is the
combination of factors like “our past life habits, our peer groups, our family and
our society in large”. Even though all these factors play a role, researches
have indicated that parents and the environment at home can be the major influencer of their personality.
These
day I see so many couples fighting and when asked what they feel their kids
would think about that, they respond by saying that they don’t fight in front
of their kids. But they fail to acknowledge that Kids catch these subtle
vibrations at home very quickly and develop their own negative mental prototypes
which can emerge unknowingly as a negative emotion in the later part of their
lives. Many a time parents are too exhausted to even talk to kids about how was
their day? It is believed that because of this kids are more intellectually
advanced but more emotionally vulnerable these days. These emotionally weak and
vulnerable kids grow up in to adults and enter in to relationships with other emotionally
vulnerable human beings, and then the problem in relationships emerges. Both
being emotionally weak are constantly expecting love, respect understanding
from each other and neither of them will be in the state to give the positive energy
to other. This results in fights to get energy fulfillment by depleting other
person of energy. When that doesn’t sustain for long these emotionally
vulnerable individuals start looking for external sources to get the momentary
contentment. External sources could be through addictions or through new relationships
hoping to get some positive energy from yet another emotionally vulnerable
person.
To
a greater extent this can be controlled if kids are groomed to become
emotionally healthy starting from their childhood. To do that parents need to
be emotionally healthy because child primarily learns from what it sees rather
than what is being taught. So it becomes imperative for us as parents to
understand ourselves and grow emotionally so that we can play a role of that
champion mentor in our child’s life. It is not a mantra, an equation or a
tactic but a life skill that is a...... constant evolving journey.
A very nice thought. However, though many couples realize the importance of helping to build the best EQ for thr kids, they seldom realize that just creating positive env around child to build good energy always wont help. I personally feel it is very important for every child to see the negatives of the world as well since that will enhance the intellectualism. If Budha never saw death, he would never have got enlightened.
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